When my parents are having problems it frustrates me because I feel like I can do nothing about it--I feel powerless. It is very frustrating. My family is different, my mom tends to abuse my dad. I wish I had some answers for you, but I really don't. I just try to distance myself from it. I love both of them--even though I get angry at my mom. One time I talked with my dad about it and he said "I am an adult and it is my choice." Oh, that frustrated me so much! He even knows he is being abused and still tolerates it. It is a tough situation to be in...you're not alone.