Yeah, I do believe it is not quite right, as I said with my experience. Some people genuinely wanted to help, but then seemed other people just giving us their old stuff as a way to say they "helped" but really just helped themselves. And it is good to get it out... True. Well, I lost 10 cats, so - very painful. And 2 missing and haven't been found. I was the "crazy cat woman." Was so strange to be left with none. I'd lost some to illnesses and old age in the past - 1 is hard enough, but I always had the others left to keep me going on. Thanks for the condolences - it's something I live with every day - especially the wondering where my 2 are and if they're even still alive. Don't feel like a self-indulging whiner. Everything we all have to deal with is hard, no matter what it is.