its a matter of perspective you view your self as unworthy or have no value more than others do so here is a perspective changing idea try this create a profile on a free online dating site don't use your real name and choose some random out of state location put up some real pictures and fill out the profile leave out that your a virgin and wait for the responses it will build your confidence if complete strangers think your attractive and you will know its isn't patronizing and that it is true cause they don't know you this may help change your perspective on yourself help you see your not some freak and just like everyone else if you let yourself be and if your comfortable about yourself later create a real profile locally get some dates