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Old Jun 07, 2014, 10:08 PM
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Originally Posted by SkyWhite View Post
I'm terrible at math but my sister loves it and is very disconnected from her emotions. We're 9 years apart and even as a kid I felt she was somehow lacking in the emotions dept. We both enjoyed Star Trek and she told me many times she wished she could be like Spock! I loved Cap. Kirk...lol. She and I are complete opposites. She's terrified to admit she has painful emotions and she can't express them. But she used to get very OCD when she was really upset back when her kids were small. She had the cleanest kitchen floor in the neighborhood! There is no way in hell I can tell her about my emotional problems because she just doesn't get it. She sees me as weak and mentally sick because I express my emotions and see a therapist. She doesn't come right out and say it but I feel it. She can be a warm individual, but when things get to close to the bone, she shuts down.

I'm definitely not saying people who love science and math are disconnected from their emotions, but in my sister's case it seems to be the case.
Yes, your sister got obsessive about cleaning etc, because it distracted her from her emotions. You both had the same mother remember.

No, she is not going to be able to help you emotionally, she will look for any excuse not to go there. I had that with my older sister.

To get "support" with the emotional challenge with PTSD, you need to be around someone who understands it or can validate emotions. A lot of people
unknowingly shut their emotions off and distract themselves. They tell you to,
"just don't think about it, just stop dwelling, just get over it etc, etc.", they "avoid" and don't even realize it.

A lot of people genuinely do not know how to be "empathetic", it is too emotionally risky for them.


OE
Thanks for this!
SkyWhite