Hi Pingu. Sorry you are having a bad time of it. If I am depressed I can be very quiet and sometimes shy. When I am not I am more talkative. I am happy with my BF now but before if I dated and someone I didn't know was too quiet it was hard to get to know them. I didn't know what to say or if I did there was no answer with which to get a conversation going. Does that make Sense?? I hate having to make all the conversation. Does that give you some insight? Good starting place is to figuire out YOUR passions and then find places where everyone likeing that goes. I love to Garden. If I go to a garden show, or shop I invariably meet someone who thinks much like me. Hope this doesn't affend you. but maybe give you some ideas. It is hard when you are feeling shy. Don't give up. You have to sell yourself. Like a car salesman. You wouldn't buy an unknown car. We women want to know what we are getting into and we can only learn by conversation and sharing ideas what model we are getting. Have fun!