I accidentally found a bipolar man, and we've been doing ok for nearly two years, but I suppose that might not work for everyone. I just noticed we had a lot in common. He didn't disclose until a few months in, and only did because he was trying to help me with my issues, which weren't being treated at all at the time. I was diagnosed before, but in denial. He helped me see that treatment was a good idea. I suppose if I were out there again, I'd try to find someone I liked and had a lot in common with, and wait a while to tell them. However, every relationship I had before this one has been a complete mess, and I understand why it'd be hard to hide enough to get to the point where disclosure becomes necessary. I guess my advice would be to find someone non-judgmental and take it really slowly. They're hard to find, but they're out there.