I am calmer now and thanks for all the responses and support. you all make a lot of sense. I just wish that she wouldn't do things like this because it completely confuses me. as I have calmed down I kind of remember more of how the conversation went . we were talking about the fall out I had with this person and how it is similar to others .then she said " like when I sit here and don't say anything ,you feel like I am angry and hate you. I know this comes from a place of a lot of hurt and pain . I just wish that she didn't do things to make me feel that way if she knows that something will. but I guess it was not as bad as I was seeing it