But when the T has been informed it is perceived as a challenge or hostility and then chooses to continue to engage in the behavior, I think it DOES become a challenge or hostility, regardless of whether or not it was initially intended that way. If the challenge is not one the client can or is prepared to overcome, then I think the client is entitled to seek help elsewhere.

And I just don't agree that Granite's T has been particularly flexible. She shuts down Granite's most effective method of communication. Granite has made huge progress, but that was due to Granite's huge efforts to overcome the barriers her T was putting up to Granite's best methods of communicating. That is just my opinion, obviously, but that is the way I have seen it.