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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
Arousal with a partner is so much more intricate than touching the right body parts.
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Is this true for a majority of people? If so, how is it that the other person in my interactions enjoys it? Even when they care far less for me than I do them? To me, it appears all that's necessary is touching the right body parts. I guess that's what confuses me the most…the guy always enjoys our interaction a lot while I couldn't feel a thing.
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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
Until you experience true intimacy with a man, which means its 100% your choice, you're attracted to eachother, there's no alcohol involved for courage etc, until then I think it will be truly difficult to be clear about your sexual orientation…
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That makes sense, but I don't really see how that would ever be possible for me, now that several experiences in a row have been disappointing and possibly even disturbing.
I have no idea how to put myself in that situation again safely and without alcohol or anything like that.
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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
It saddens me that you don't think you could or should say "no", and that you believe saying it won't matter.
Your opinion of men will never change if you never give men the opportunity to show you some respect.
And by that I don't mean you're inviting any disrespect. What I mean is that if you don't ever say "no", how will you ever see a man respect that no?
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I could have sworn I said no, but he continued to push me. I guess I wasn't adamant enough about it? Or I felt that it would just be better to get it over with so he would go away. I didn't feel like my no or any sort of no would be taken as an actual no, but as an "ask me again". What was I supposed to do when he asks to kiss me? Shouldn't any response but a clear yes be enough. I don't remember if I was literally able to say "no", but I had clearly checked out and had changed the subject. Also, I would think lack of eye contact would say something too.
And at what point do I stop them? It seems common to think that if they're allowed to touch you at all (like even put their arm around you), then you're signed up for a whole bunch more automatically. But if I refused to be touched at all, doesn't that make me seem crazy and unreasonable?