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Originally Posted by debramorgan42
seriously... it is kind of tragic because I'm in love with him..... and he returns my feelings
but than there are some periods where he is just so much of a pessimist it is almost unbearable.... I can't say anything to calm him down... it is so stressful.
yet when he is ok, he is the sweetest man alive... he is tender, funny and inteligent, he can calm me down when I'm anxious.... understanding and respectful ect.
and than he goes mad again... selfish and pessismistic......
I don't know... we've been apart for two moth.... and that was hell because the reasonless breakup.... and now I'm equally miserable. I know if he is done with his exams he'll be fine and we'll share some good time again...
but how long can I take this roller coster?
I don't know..... when he is alright he is open for talking and problem solving... until he hits that spot again.
and i'm mainly alone... kinda out of social groups... working to get into one too... i'm often terribly lonely... and one week I can call him up and it is relise and the other week it is just more stress...
i'll give him a few shots because I just... really love him, but i'm in pain... I mean do I need more stress?could it be better if go to conseling?
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Hi, Debra! My heart goes out to you and I can see that you are a kind and caring girlfriend to your boyfriend...And that he does have a lot on his plate and can only imagine what it's like to be in his shoes and the state his mind is in seems to be very fragile, indeed. I am so sorry for you both, that you have to go through this.
I was wondering, what is your plan of action for yourself? What are you doing to help you? I hope that you spend some time seeking help for yourself and in the process you might learn ways to better be of help to him, if that's how you wish to proceed...and by finding balance, support for yourself, maybe counseling, friendships, you will uncover tools that will help lift you up and out of the fray...helping you to see things more clearly...
I hear the stress and anxiety. Please, take care of yourself. That's OK to do. Maybe you can even tell yourself, the relationship does not have to end right this minute. Because that might be too much for you right now. But, just say to yourself, I'm taking a little break. Going to spend some time figuring out what "I" need to work on...just for today. Can't solve it all right now...easy does it...these are just my thoughts, take in what you like and leave the rest...a big hug to you...
