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Originally Posted by 1914sierra
You sound connected quite honestly. I just get the feeling you have learned somewhere along the way that a connection must involve drama and intense emotions. Truly strong and healthy connections are really more what you already describe: calm, safe, comfortable. This relationship will NEVER feel exactly like any other relationship. You seem to expect it to feel just like your last T, but that isn't realistic. No two relationships are exactly the same. Can you consider just allowing this to be the safe, calm relationship it appears to be?
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Yes I can do that, it feels safe right now, we are open and honest with each other, she encourages phone calls. I feel comfortable, im being more open and vulnerable. We both share meaningful stuff in common, and we share stories together. She is very attuned to my feelings.
Sometimes I feel im missing a crucial part of the relationship piece, when I read threads here about connections, and clients missing therapists between sessions, emails and texts, and so forth, and I dont feel this way, I feel there is something wrong in my relationship.
I know its not good to compare, but I did have those feelings with my old t, except with this t, she offers alot more in different ways.