We, as the children, now 57, 56, and 51, feel like we have really missed a lot because our Dad was so self-centered. He was so emotionally abusive, and was so awful with our Mom. He still is! At times, I felt anger towards her for putting up with it, when she could have found a better life for all of us. It was not to be, and this is what we have left. The years just go by so fast, and we all need to make the most of what we have. We always had a warm home, and plenty of food, and what we needed, but we didn't have the emotional support!! That is so important to kids! Mom was always trying to keep things smoothed out so Dad wouldn't throw his temper tantrums. What a life!! I don't let anyone bully me like that. I just say, look we need to talk about this. I am not going to be miserable.