OK I am not a child anymore, but just want to understand something;
my parents rarely speak each other, I hear them talk only when I am around, like a cover-up for their separateness; I feel like I live in fake environment.
So many things are saying that my sister and I captivate their early freedom, that they didn't even wanted children, but now they devoted their lives and expect us to give that back to them.
One day, we were driving in a car, and I said about that they are not wishing us independence, and my mother said with rage in her tone "Oh, you'll have your independence..." but she didn't finished, and the message was: "...when I die".
We rarely speak in our house cause the more I want to ask some principal questions about foundations of parenthood, I get this "wall" from them, anger and rage how disrespectful I am. Its like our parents have planned our life.

My question... well I don't know.
I'm trying to get a job and leave cause I don't get a common sense from them.
The most saddest part is, the more I watch their anger and rage about getting our independence, the more I am afraid of my future principles of parenthood and family foundations.

I really don't know what my question could be... but I would really appreciate opinion if someone has.
Thanks