Hi Stuck - I do know what you mean when you say that it might sound hard or callous but you don't want to look after a family member full-time, and that you want to help. This is sort of what I experienced before one of my parents died, as I wanted to be there to help, but did not want to find myself lost in the caregiving role. So - I figured that to maintain my sanity and my own life, it would be better for me to be helpful regularly, but to also carry on with my own life.