Hi Everyone, so this is a difficult one for me.
My partner and I have been together for a few years, we've recently had a baby (my partner also has two other children) and we've moved in together, previous to this I lived in my grandparents family home.
I've been incredibly close to my family (grandparents in particular) all my life, moving out was a big thing and I generally would have considered myself very close to them - Which is why this is so difficult.
Long story short, my grand parents don't like my partner and for no good reason. They simply seem to 'disapprove', despite how well mannered, respectful and nice my partner has been towards them, this still continues from their side. There is generally an atmosphere any time my partner is around, which they create with their dry attitudes, and I even dislike them being in the same company or indeed speaking about our lives together to my grandparents.
Until recently my mother and partner had a good relationship. This recently ended due to a fall out between then three of us - I wont get into details of this as it isn't relevant, however my mothers actions were deemed quite serious and when it seemed apparent she wasn't going to accept responsibility for what she'd done, she was asked to leave our house (by my partner).
The result has since been my mother divulging these details to my grandparents, and making their dislike of my partner even worse. My mother ultimately was to blame for our fall out, however she was relayed the situation to my grandparents in a way which belittles her contribution and focuses only on the fact she was asked to leave our house - This has meant that my grandparents are now even worse in terms of their attitude/interest in my family, and they themselves make no effort to understand that my mothers action were not only deserving of being asked to leave, but did indeed cause it to happen.
So ultimately where I am now is stuck in the middle. I no longer speak to my mother, as she insisted on disrespecting my partner and failed to acknowledge her other two children in public (both of which were very hurt by this as they liked my mother), and with two grandparents whom want a relationship with our new baby, but make no efforts to communicate with my partner to make arrangements to see him or have time with him and seemingly just want to rely on me visiting their house with him - Baring in mind I work full time, all week 10 1/2 hours a day. This leaves me no time after work to make visits to ensure they see him, and with only 2 days off and 3 children and a home, I naturally dont get a lot of spare time on the days Im out of work to do so either, nor do I think it should be my responsibility to ensure anyone has a relationship with my son when we all live close to each other and are capable of arranging it ourselves.
So I guess I don't know what to do. I'm hurt over the situation with my mother, and I suppose I'm moving closer to the realisation that my remaining family (despite how great of a childhood I had, and how loved I was made to feel throughout my life) have absolutely no concern for the success or happiness of my relationship and are ultimately negative influences on my life as it is currently.
I'm not sure what anyone would be able to advise here, possibly nothing, but thank you or listening.
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