Almeda, how comfortable are you in talking with your T about your relationship with him? (attachment, rejection, transference, etc.) I only ask this because at one point, I kept insisting that my T was uncomfortable or did not want to talk about my self-injury. In actuality, he was completely comfortable talking about it-- I was projecting my own discomfort about the topic onto him. Please don't think I'm pinning you for the lack of discussion about transference and such-- it's just a thought. In my situation, my T didn't actually send signals that would have made me believe he was uncomfortable talking about SI-- it was something I created. Or I would "misread" his signals as discomfort. I often do this with frustration as well. I insist to him that he is frustrated with me, when I'm really getting fed up with myself.

Has your T actually come out and said that transference isn't his thing? Have you asked him any direct questions regarding his stance on discussing your relationship?

I hope you are doing well, Almeda.