My T once noted to me that most people apologize for actions or words that have impacted another person in a detrimental way. I apologize for feelings, thoughts, and sometimes just existing. I try to keep those words in mind, and when I feel the need to apologize, I try to ask myself what I'm apologizing for and if it's really necessary. If I haven't done or said something to T that is hurtful to her, then I try not to apologize. It's hard, though. I will often tell T that I feel the urge to apologize and why, and we talk about it, rather than my just uttering the apology and her telling me it's not necessary.