After seeing my T for about a year and a half, I have mentioned it a few times (uncomfortably).

The first time it ever happened, was when I was reading him excerpts from a poem I had written. It was based upon a past relationship I had with a guy who I was very attracted to, but really couldn't stand otherwise. The poem used some more vulgar terms for the word sex. Anyway, after I read it, I didn't want to my T to think bad of me, so I mentioned how horrible it was of me to be with this guy just because I was attracted to him. So my T goes, "What, you think you're horrible just because you wanted to %#@&#! some guy who was good-looking?" I was half astonished, half relieved.

This opened up some discussion on my past "relationships" before I got married (enter borderline personality disorder symptom checklist-- promiscuity, lol).

Then I quickly mentioned something about my issues constantly hindering my sex drive with my husband. But I couldn't use the word sex. And I couldn't really elaborate on the issue. But I was really glad I finally got it out. My T said, "I've noticed there are some words you never use..."

I don't know if this has to do with my T being male. I could never imagine myself opening up at all to a female T-- but if it was at all possible, would I be able to talk about sex with her? I'm not sure if it's a gender thing.