I also seem to use distress tolerance the most. One thing I've done is stuff to distract me such as concentrating on breathing or finding as many names as possible that begin with a certain letter. In another circumstance, I listened to a song at max volume using headphones. It wasn't a relaxing song necessarily, but it had music that was able to stir up something inside of me and words that expressed what I was feeling. I tried holding onto ice once. It didn't work.