I'm sorry you feel that way...or, more to the point, that he treats you that way. I feel like that about my boyfriend, in terms of certain things I get excited about: If I'm really happy about an idea, an impending event/purchase/travel, he has to point out all the negatives, or potential negatives. I'm not saying there isn't value in that--I do think of those things myself, too, usually--but I really hate that he has to bring me down. And then he'll sometimes turn it around, and say, "But we might find it's better than we think." I just want him to cheer me on. He tends to worry a lot and think bad things are going to happen when he makes certain decisions.

Likewise, he has to point out all the positives, or potential positives, in something I'm just not happy about. Or if I'm mad, he has to point out all the possibilities of how I could be wrong. And I do consider other points of view...it's not always about people...but I just want him to say, "Yes, you're right! That's terrible! I don't blame you for being angry!" A little support, you know?

Our new house is one example. I'm not happy about it, and the more I hear, the less happy I am. I truly hope it falls through and we have to look for a new house (of course, I only want this if we'd find a better house). The housing inspector is going back Tuesday to see how bad the sagging roof is. I wish he'd tried to make appointments to see some of the houses I'd found in the last few days before he made his decision. The bedrooms are too [BLEEP!] small, even the master bedroom (which he gets), and even the basement room, plus there's no ventilation in the basement room, which I was going to use for a hobby room. I'm really upset.

I'm sorry, I don't mean to take over the thread...just vented before I knew what I was doing. Please keep to the main topic, but I need to get that out now and then.