I talk about sex openly with my T, and pretty much anyone who wants to talk about it. I wasn't always so comfortable; when I was a teen, I was much shyer. But I read a lot about sex, and learned a lot about it, and in doing so, I learned that most people think about, talk about, see, and have sex. So, why are we so ashamed and embarrassed about it? I decided, I'm not going to keep my mouth shut when everyone else has the same questions. Somebody's gotta ask, why not me? LOL! I want the answers, and I'd rather ask and learn how to protect myself and also, how to get the most pleasure, than be quiet and not know anything. Plus, there were other people who were open about talking about sex, and I liked people like that...not just those who talked about sex, but people--women, especially--who didn't worry what others thought. They said what was on their mind, and they shocked a lot of people, but you knew where they stood. I wanted to be like that.

It wasn't easy at first. I was still shy, still uncomfortable talking about it, but it got easier. And I don't mean I just started blabbing about sex everywhere I went. It would usually come up first, or I'd bring it up when it seemed a reasonable time to do so.

But back to your question. I feel you should be able to talk to your T about sex, because that's part of who we are. Besides, even if you're not ready to talk to other people, your T is a great person to get in a little practice! Whenever I've gotten a new T, I have no problem talking about it. Or to doctors and gynecologists. But I figure, if one of them seemed uncomfortable or said they didn't want us to talk about sex, I'd say, "Then you're not the right T for me." First, because I do have issues to discuss concerning sex, and second, because I want to be free to talk about it. I've never had that problem, but if I did, that's what I'd do, and then I'd get a new T.