"With that said, I take issue (respectfully) with you lumping NPD, BPD and HPD all together."

Understood. Thanks for the response! You are correct and I apologize. To clarify, my particular situation was the comorbid combination of the worst parts of 3 different PD's. I am also very sorry that you had to go through what you did. My prayers are with you. You hit the nail on the head. Before, during, and after the relationship. It is a tough pill to swallow, and takes a long time to make the journey back to peace and love.