Thankyou so much for taking the time to reply each and everyone of you. ChipperMonkey you were absolutely right - he is completely reversing his promises on me, telling me he was only appeasing me. I barely slept at all last night.

To add further hurt, he said he still believes that it's perfectly okay for him to see female friends one on one, that he sees nothing wrong with it as it's innocent. I tried to explain that if your wife is being hurt by your actions, why would you do this, how could you live with yourself watching what it does to her? The selfishness is killing me in all this. I do intend to go 'home', though he's reversed what he said on that too. He now tells me he could never live in Brisbane, that he hates it there. This is where I need to be. This all came out last night, and we of course slept in separate rooms. He'd wanted to continue on with me as though nothing has happened. He swears he did not cheat - it's like he's in denial or something.

Thanks again, for listening, also for the welcome, the hugs and the wonderful support. xx