OE; Iīm sorry for all the pain you have had to go through.
I donīt know, I donīt think this is necessarily only a gender thing...
I mean, an EMT yelling at you to shut up when you are in this kind of pain?!
That is weird and makes me think this is a very strange, unprofessional person, either way, that might or might not scream at men and children too.
Just like a doctor shouldnīt scream at a patient when theyīre in pain, an EMT shouldnīt - and Iīd hope, wouldnīt in most cases either.
Iīm just thinking you were very unfortunate to get stuck with this person.
""get the hell up and knock it off".
Do you think I would have been yelled at that way if I was a man?
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I think you might have, men are "supposed to be tough", really depending on who youīre interacting with.
Such behaviour, yelling at a dangerously ill person in the emergency room, is weird and such a person has, Iīd think, some sort of anger problems and might yell at anyone...
I donīt think that all of it happened just because you are a woman or that the behaviour can be explained by that.
I think it happened because you were very unfortunate with the people that you had to deal with.
Some people are harmful, toxic, unhelpful, stupid either way, no matter if theyīre talking to women, children or men. Some are sexist, but that is their problem, not yours.
I just mean, a good parnter will treat you with respect- woman or man, a good doctor will talk to any patient in an appropriate way.
If they donīt, the fault doesnīt lie in you being a woman, it lies with them, not knowing how to treat people.
I donīt know if this helps, but I got the Mind-Body workbook for PTSD
and one of the exercises made you see your frustration and tension when you think about how the world "should be" and then works on trying to accept that unfortunately, the world often isnīt what it "should" be like.
It does relieve tension, I feel.
