thanks alison,

but I also know (and my therapist correctly pointed out) that I spent days "stewing" over this issue. Plotting and planning how I would create this big scene and storm out. I didn't sleep much Sunday night. It had me completely enraged within myself (yet externally it probably looked like nothing).

Very self destructive. Very energy consuming. Pointless.

AND it points back to some of the garbage I endured as a kid (nothing big compared to most people here - but it messed me up). Arg