Hi UM, I'd say that it would have been way too much for her to ask/want you to, kind of "take it in your stride" anyway.
Sure one way to handle it might have been to know logically you'd paid it, recognise they'd made a mistake, tell them and "sorted".
But that's a place you (should) feel safe, there should be trust there that they're going to make things run smoothly/that your only real concern should be getting the support from the T you need, where the anxieties of the admin etc of the outside world aren't a concern, where you can know that once you've paid you've paid..............so yes, I'd say that what happened would naturally throw you.
And considering the way you were feeling anyway before this happened......."not your best"!! Now maybe if it had happened at another time it might have been that little bit easier......??
Still if that's throwing an emphasis on how you're coping with things in general lately that can't be a bad thing, right?? I mean you did seriously do really well in coming away from the way you were feeling over the weekend to talk to someone about it, but if you can get a little more help based on how you've been feeling overall then the whole experience has done something.
And while you're dealing with that with them, don't forget the strength you did show/bring out from somewhere in talking to someone about the payment, OK??!! Use it, it is there!!!
But what you endured as a kid, doesn't matter how "big", how "small" or anywhere in between it was. All that matters is the effect!! All that matters is the effect it had on you!!
Hurt is hurt, there's no changing that fact, it's real whatever the circumstances, and there shouldn't be any trying to dismiss it/downgrade it just because it doesn't match some sort of "criteria". If it's there it's just as important, no matter what!! You/your feelings are just as important!!
And if you want to talk anytime................
Alison