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alexandra_k said:
Do you know what theoretical orientation your therapist is?

Yes his orientation is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. We started out with that over a year ago but we got side tracked for a long time dealing with my other issues. I have since started journaling again and he gave me a presentation he put together which is great.

I'm asking that because some theoretical orientations focus on transference while others do not.

It is one thing to attempt to prevent it from happening and quite another to avoid it / ignore it once it has occurred, however.

That is kind of how I feel. Like he's avoiding it. Although, Pinksoil might be on to something with her post too. I'm uncomfortable talking about it. I don't which one of us started that...maybe it was me....

Sounds to me that he doesn't know very much about intense transference / doesn't deal with it often. While that might well be true it really doesn't affect your feelings.

Yeah, he might not. Somehow I need to ask him this...can I take one of you girls with me? Ha!

What he seems to need to know is that... It is precisely because you feelings originate from the past that he doesn't need to be concerned about your feelings for him. In fact your feelings (and your willingness to share them with him) provide a really useful way in to finding out a lot of your past hurts and the like. They can be used as a platform.

We've talked about my unmet needs from my dad that still occur to this day. I just wish we could share more about what is happening in this current relationship...