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Originally Posted by newbie33
ok so I just somewhat got out of a 7+ year relation ship with my fiancé! we been engaged for over a year and have a beautiful 8 month old daughter that means the world to me!
the past few months we been arguing little and little everytime to the point she actually left me. our arguments were nothing serious, abusive or anything just stupid silly arguments.
well shes officially been gone for over a month and we been separated for 2 months(living together for 1 month but slept in different rooms)
well since she left me I kept the apt and she moved back in with her parents. I am a complete mess! I hate working! I don't want to be around no one at all! my practically lost my bestfriend because I didn't want to be around her to allow to help me! just about every day I go home and I look around and I cry because its something we once called home!  pictures and just memories everywhere! im just no longer myself!
I just need your help in how to cope with everything! I know im still so young (24) but she was my everything and I was hers. we were high school sweethearts and we loved everything. we still talk but nothing is promised!
idk what to do! I also became more sad because we were actually about to start planning the wedding .
please someone help. anyone. im too young for all this and I don't want to ruin my life . |
I'm sorry to hear about this. I can't believe she just bailed on you, and your child. I think she's probably really scared by the whole situation. It's a huge thing to commit to a family life, and sometimes the way people deal with it is to run away to try to get some time to think. I know only too well about hating work, and not wanting to be around anyone when you feel like this. All I can tell you is that you have to be strong for your child. My advice is to give your fiancee some space, so she can think about the situation. I know it's been a couple of months, but I'm guessing she still needs a little more time to get herself together. Try giving her another month before trying to make contact. It's really tough because you guys have a baby, but it may just be what she needs to come to her senses. Resist the urge to talk to her everyday, and if you need to, tell her you're giving her some time to think things through. She's the mother of your child, so there's probably a good chance she'll do what's right. Hang in there.