Oh, .. WOW. You are not going nuts. He is bang out of order. I dunno what to suggest, I'm sorry.

Unlike him, we not out to control you (within the PC rules of course ) and you're welcome to vent some. "take a load off", as they say. I think you need to make sure you're with a decent person, if you have that co-dependency problem; I hate the idea of someone taking advantage of that.

Of course, we'll only getting one side of the story, is it happens, but I'm inclined to think there's very little (or nothing at all) that would make him sound just in what he says.



PS,
I'm in England, as well, ... maybe if you gimmie his co-ordinates, I can, ... have a man-to-man chat with him? Find out what's up with him. No? Right, OK, ... had to ask. Lol.

(joking, of course xD)