Sky, you said, "Perhaps it's time to have it out with your hubby, in that, confront him with the facts: it isn't that you are wasting money or are obsessed, but that HE isn't happy with you finding yourself and being a woman. HE feels worse when he sees you succeed at anything... and add anything issues that you feel are at the root of the problem."

I'm glad it's obvious to others besides myself, exactly what HIS problem is. Thanks for pointing this out so clearly.

I want everyone to know that I have had it out with him many times about exactly what you said, Sky......many times in the 40 years that we've been married. Sometimes he even admits to his insecurity about my succeeding at something. Yet, he continues to do this.....every time.

I have always given in so that he won't feel so insecure and thus be so mean and negative. I won't do it this time!!

Sky, you are so right in saying that someday this may be all I have. I also know that the expenses incurred will all be deductible and my business taxes will be next to nothing. (nothing in '06 since I just started on Oct. 31, '06) He actually wanted me to NOT tell the accountant that I was working. I had to tell him no and he threw a huge fit about that, but then after nearly a week of pouting, he agreed to report the job and the income. Why did I spend 40 years like this????

Please don't anyone suggest I leave now because it isn't an option for me at my age and in my health.