I guess the first thing to look at is whether or not your T's techniques are working for you. You sound frustrated with her. Your profile indicates PTSD among other things. It's important to have a trusting relationship with your T with these diagnoses or it won't work. I know this from experience. My T back then was like yours, wanting to not focus on the trauma and pull me to the present to "learn new coping skills." You can't move forward without processing the trauma. If you want to review your life, you should be given an opportunity to do that but in a structured way. You don't want to dwell on the past, but you don't want to ignore it either. I found it very, very helpful to let my T know my whole story. I left no stone unturned. Now we can move forward with healthy life skills. Is your T trained in trauma? Not all Ts are trained to treat people with multiple diagnoses either. I find these kind tend to fall back on the type of thing your T seems to be doing.

As for helping yourself. The first thing you may want to do is find out more about your conditions and how they can affect you and your life. That's where I started. But don't bombard yourself with too much information. It can be overwhelming. You're a dancer, so the exercise thing is covered. But also learn relaxation techniques if you don't already do this, eg. self soothing, etc. Journaling has also worked wonders for me. I also found this forum to be very helpful in providing support and suggestions.