Hey there,

I know this thread is two years old by now, but I found it to be very helpful. My gf is 25 years old, we moved in together about a year ago - she has a serious problem with laziness. She lost her job half a year ago and refuses to even try to get another one, she sits on the couch and plays video games and watches TV all day. When I get home from work she is still in her PJ's.

She is in school but only part-time (2 classes per week), the course load is really light, and the only reason she is in school is because I insisted that she do something with her life... she has been spoiled her entire life, both her parents were divorced since she was very young and all they have done is enable her to do whatever she wants with no encouragement or repercussions. When she's short on money, her dad gives her money - so that's how her portion of the rent gets paid. It's hard for me because I am very motivated, if we were the same way I know that we could get a bigger place eventually, but that will never happen.

Here's what she says when I confront her on the issue:

"I know, I have no motivation.."
"I have no initiative.."
"Stop talking to me about it"

No matter how nicely I bring it up, she just acts like I'm her parent and that I'm inconveniencing her for lecturing her - as if to say 'why are you spoiling my good time, you're being a drag, man!' Sorry to vent - I'm really having a hard time with immature people who won't take responsibility for themselves.