I can totally relate to this, from a guys point of view - my gf and I are both normal-looking, functional people, but my gf has serious self-image issues and depression, she can't initiate intimacy and 'fakes it' all the time. I'm just dying for genuine intimacy.. she's 25 and won't act like an adult.. I think she 'reverts' to this 'asexual' state because she is frightened of intimacy.. honestly this one has created a huge obstacle in my life.. my needs as a feeling adult aren't getting met.