Hopefully I won't offend you - honestly this is not my intention.. but you mentioned that guys are not giving you the 'double take' anymore.. I'm thinking you're accustomed to a certain degree of attention at 130 that you're not getting at 230. I don't think it's true that guys won't date you.. there are plenty of men who like bigger women, or who just don't care.. but men as being visual-types, I'm sure you could understand how guys would 'oogle' at a 130-lb cutie vs. a heavier-set one... Politically incorrect, I know, but it's the truth. This is not to say that you won't get dates.. you might have to be a little more proactive about it, guys will drool over the modelesque types..