that's okay, kindergirl. you didn't intend to upset anyone in your chat, you were looking for comfort.

I'm so sorry about the baby. It is so very sad when a baby dies and so hard to understand, especially when the baby is apparently healthy. There is no easy way to deal with this; just be emotionally honest and let your tears come as a tribute to this little one's short sweet life. It's a comfort to the parents knowing others share their grief. No words are even needed; a hug and and "I'm so sorry" will show your support of the family at such an exhausting and hard time.