((((((((Susan))))))))

I totally understand where you are at. I was married to a man who couldn't stand whatever I did or did not do. Nothing was ever good enough for him. Either I worked too many hours and he had to sit with the kids, or I wasn't paid enough money, or the boss was a jerk, or I wasn't there to stare at him or listen to him or watch him drink himself into oblivion every moment.

I too tried my hardest to find a balance and to please him. It took a long time for me to realize that there was never a happy medium and nothing I did or said would make the problem go away. After awhile, I learned to turn a deaf ear to his ramblings and rantings. I did what I had to do to take care of the family in the best way I could and I refused to feel guilty about it.

I know that leaving is not an option for you. The only thought I have is that maybe in some way you can include him in your work and leisure time to help him feel he has a part in it. Maybe that will help him except what you are doing. I don't know if that is an option for the two of you or not.

I wish I had more words of wisdom, but alas, my wisdom walked out years ago....LOL

Hugssssssssss
J