He used to be very charming and loving and respectful until five months in. No idea what changed. He did have some great qualities then. As to getting one side of the story, my biggest flaw is the co dependency thing. It's why I am always the one who ends up putting in a lot of effort even as the partner checks out. I admit I cry a lot because of being frustrated and I'm sure that's a flaw too. But yeah I guess it's time to pull the cord.. Maybe I should go to therapy ? My mom seems to think that's a good idea as she says " you give and give and they take and take yet you never quit giving even when you should ". Overall I'm a decent being , other than the codependency and crying from how he treats me.