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Originally Posted by Ams3618
He used to be very charming and loving and respectful until five months in. No idea what changed. He did have some great qualities then. As to getting one side of the story, my biggest flaw is the co dependency thing. It's why I am always the one who ends up putting in a lot of effort even as the partner checks out. I admit I cry a lot because of being frustrated and I'm sure that's a flaw too. But yeah I guess it's time to pull the cord.. Maybe I should go to therapy ? My mom seems to think that's a good idea as she says " you give and give and they take and take yet you never quit giving even when you should ". Overall I'm a decent being , other than the codependency and crying from how he treats me.
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*hugs* I feel for you. I do because I have been in relationships many times and invariably I tend to submit, give and do the same things for years. I agree wtih your mother that working through that would be a good idea whether with a T or not.
I don't believe that quitting giving ever is soemthing that should happen, that's not something I would do but I also know that i need to find someone that won't take advantage of that either.
I won't say whether you should move on or not as there is not enough information here, but I will say that if there is no attempt to change this on his part, at some point, yes, that would be the best thing to do
Hang in there, I know it's tough.