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I understand how hard it is. It took me about 1.5 years not to miss him soooo much. We did not really end on bad terms - but he wanted to date others. I did not get the chance to resent him over the years and he was a great friend so getting over him was really hard. I tried to hold onto the friendship....too hard. After almost 2 years....I am able to talk with him and I do not view him in the same way. I romantic thoughts stopped coming a while back...plus I do not see that "man" I fell for anymore..he changed and I am sure I did to. But I can say...to date... I loved him like no other.
Hang in there. It is like a death. I'm sure you are handling this in a "normal" way...and if not...who cares what anyone else thinks (unless you want to hurt yourself or if you hang in depression too long - you can reach out for help)...it's your life...it's your heart.
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
“Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge
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