A psychologist is a good start, imo. (But then I'm biased ) But someone your BC/BS will cover I hope... they are quite picky here in FL...and many therapists don't accept because of the fees...

Someone who you feel comfortable talking with, who has the expertise to keep you on a good direction of healing.

Suffering from "family dynamics" long after leaving the nest is common. To this day when my mother says something and I watch my siblings (all older) fall in line and agree, and I stand and say "No, I don't live by your rules any more"... my family's collective jaw drops. ...I learned how to know who I am vs who they are, through therapy. Yes, things they say and do can hurt, but they don't have to cut you open any more A good therapist can give you the truthful definitions of words like "victim" and how to stop the pain that won't continue to harm you. TC