How do you know? You're diagnosed. I think that's the only way to truly know. It's possible to have just borderline traits and not full on borderline personality disorder. I relate to a lot of what you said, I don't even qualify for BPD anymore, but it helps to have something to hold fast to I suppose.
Bring it up to your therapist, I don't know why she wouldn't tell you, it sounds like you may have traits or be like myself, a high functioning borderline.
Good luck
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Allie
Diagnosed: Generalized Anxiety Disorder & Obsessive Compulsive Disoder. Previous: Borderline Personality Disorder.
I no longer qualify for a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, but there will always be my borderline traits that I struggle with especially during times of great stress.
I've been working passionately as a therapist since December 2016
