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Originally Posted by grinch11
My question about letting this friendship go is do I just let it fade or do I confront it and let it be known my exact position and rational? I unfortunately tend to be one of the people that needs closer. I don't do the whole let it just fade thing really well. I get frustrated by it and just want to have a line drawn in the sand so to speak. I know it's not a good thing to do or be but if I'm to choose the later I need some good solid advice how to do the quite exit. I do believe that I do deserve better and should be getting a whole lot more out of this friendship than this. I'm just having a hard time accepting it. Thank you for the words and encouragement.
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many yrs. ago i had a married friend whom my hubby and i socialized with regularly and she and i were very close (but not in a work related relationship); i got sucked into the drama of knowing and willingly participating in the knowledge/secrecy of her being involved with a married man. i realized i needed to be honest with her (knowing on some level our friendship would end) and told her face to face that i could no longer be complicit in her relationship w/the married man. she got pissed of and the friendship ended almost immediately. i would see her on many occasions after that but we never communicated again, ever. yes, it was a loss and i grieved the demise of our friendship but i realized i had to put myself first and could not be part of the secrets i was holding for her, especially going out w/her and her hubby. look at this as an opportunity for you to grow and learn from this; not all friendships are created equal and we suffer losses throughout our lives. you will get thru this but you need to be honest with her, rather than avoid her..this will allow time for you to grieve and get closure. it won't be easy but she'll find another confidant…doesn't seem to me like this is an equal, supportive, positive friendship.