welcome lost girls 57. I couldn't beieve it when I read your post, just how similar our stories are. We share much. I am 42 years old and 2 years ago, my life came crashing down around me. I managed to hide away all the pain for all those years. I also have a mother much like yours, who is also an alcoholic. I grew up in a cold unloving home where violence and abuse were "routine". I know exactly what you mean when people tell you to "get over it", and thats exactly what I tried to do for 20 years. I have been seeing a psychologist for about 20 months and the journey of healing I have been on has been very rocky. There have been many times when I have wanted to give up. It has been a great relief to share my story with a caring person though. I have a wonderful husband, but even after 22 years of marriage I still haven't been able to share a lot of what happened when I was a child. I share your pain, and definately recommend you seek help from a qualified counsellor /psychologist. My very best wishes in your search to healing - It is worth it!! Please pm me any time. Good luck xx