Sky I dont have any answers for you on this.. but I do want to say I understand. I know your on your own doing all this. But even being married .. I cant get him to help me with things that need done.. He doesnt see these things like I do.. like walls being wiped down. He knows I cant get on a ladder ( it puts my back out every time) And the reaching itsself puts me offbalance .. I have nearly nill equilibrium. Mopping my floors here doesnt get done nearly enough for me either. I try to Swiffer them.. but thats all I can do. I wish I could get down on my hands and knees the old fashioned way and give it a good scrubbin. I have no dishwasher.. no shower.. so everything is back work for me and its sooo painful. It doesnt get done near as often as it should and needs to. But I have to accept that. I cant afford a maid. I dont like a messy house.. but I live in one. Too much on our plates . Hope it helps to know your not alone.