Hi, dont worry about jumping in, I appreciate your oppinions, thats why I posted this thread, all oppinions are welcomed, there is no wrong or right its your oppinion as to how you feel about my question. My t asked me this, I myself have a csa history and many other mental issues, I had never heard of the nature vs nurture theory. I didnt have the pleasure of growing up in a healthy enviornment as you describe above. I do differ though when it comes to therapy, and talking about the past with a safe person, if only to release all the negative feelings buried deep withing you just to process them and move on, not to place blame or use it as a crutch to move on in ones life to be successful.

Therapy is helping me to find some sort of logic to all the devastation in my childhood which has affected my adulthood in so many ways. I respect your oppinions stated above, that a parent sometimes is not to blame for a childs issues later in life, a child may have the healthiest relationship with the parent, and still have behavioral issues and personality disorders, but I am not a doctor , so I cant explain why that happens. Thanks for posting.