i think you will get better over time, yeah. like everyone else we have the capacity to use our experiences to help and the capacity to use our experiences to harm. i think part of it is about being more aware of what we are doing so that we have more conscious control over our actions.

one advantage we have over the monkeys is this really large brain with far more developed frontal lobes that enable us to inhibit (or learn to inhibit) our automatic responses with some time and practice.

things can get a lot better :-)

also...

if you view peoples lashing out as an expression of their pain rather than taking it personally then one can feel empathy for them and their lashing out doesn't hurt us quite so much.