From a psychological and sociological perspective labeling usually has mostly negative connotations, rarely positive or neutral. Yet, if it is positive for an individual to have a label then they should get *it*labeled. Unfortunately, the BPD label has become a minefield. I've heard my teenager and his friends hurl it as insults against each other or to label an unacceptable behavior that one as committed. "That's so BPD man." It angers the heck out of me. My ex Therapist gets so angry at other therapist, and there are many that use it as a poison that they express to others as choking the life out of them. She always takes the time to school them, yet a lot of what she says goes unheard. She says, "One person at a time."

The OP sounds like she has an awesome therapist, and I hope she can find her answers in the therapy room to move her forward.