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lostgirl57 said:
My family just can't help me. They all hate my mother,too, but just tell me to "get over it!"
"Let it go!" Don't give my mother the satisfaction of letting it "get to me".
How does one go about achieving this???
If it were only that simple!

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Hi lostgirl! Welcome to the forum. I quoted this excerpt from your entry because this was often the reaction I got when trying to deal with all of the hurt/resentment/anger/sadness/confusion that I hold towards my mother. In therapy, my therapist validates my feelings towards her. He lets me know that I have every right to feel the way I do. He teaches me that it's alright to be mad. And he never tries to deter me from those feelings-- rather he is right there with me as I go through them. Can your primary care physican recommend a therapist for you? I actually picked my therapist out of the phonebook-- because I needed someone with a sliding fee scale. He ended up being the best therapist I could have asked for. I hope that you find someone who you can connect with. Remember-- it takes time. As far as what type of therapy you'd benefit from, it depends on your personality really. If you are the type of person who would like to solve things in the way of changing your thoughts, then try cognitive therapy. If you are someone (like me) who wants to work from the unconscious, be in therapy long-term, and examine how the past connects to the present, you may want to go with someone more psychodynamic. Luckily, most therapists come from a more eclectic point of view, and are willing to combine a variety of techniques.