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Originally Posted by Parley
Experience in what?
Knowing the destruction that someone can cause by not maintaining boundaries? Absolutely and I’m still dealing with that destruction.
The destruction of someone abusing my connection and concern for them? Yes, and that was tied to the first violation but by other people. I also justified, made excuses, and understood, while denying the pain it caused me.
Have I ever had a therapist dump her personal issues about divorce and an abusive spouse or anything else? No, that would be a violation of ethics and if we were lucky, I’d walk!
Because of other peoples boundary violations, I fear myself and I will admit that mine might be an odd case but I didn't recognize the psychological damage of the beginning when I had nothing to fear.
I know you don't know me but I have seen others question your therapist behavior. It seems glossed over but you Latch on to the ones that give you hope. I don't want to patronize you by this comment but it's so obvious that sometimes I just want to hug you and I don't hug.
I wish you luck GenCat~ don't forget to take care of yourself. Buy yourself a gift.
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Thank you for your honesty.
Are you saying I am choosing the safe side and familiar, by staying with T? What makes you think I've not been trying to find another T? I actually have been for about two months now.
Do you think my attachment to T and her violations make me not want to leave?
I honestly don't know and am looking for answers.