Mellors...

I respond to your posts because I find them interesting and they get me thinking. If I didn't find them interesting and thought provoking then I wouldn't respond to them.

I like to hear what you have to say.

> i knew you would react

Yeah, I can indeed be a bit reactive at times. Not my best quality, I'm afraid. Something I'm working on but I do more or less well with that depending on how frustrated I feel (where most of that frustration is coming from elsewhere truth be told).

But...

I really didn't mean to react to your post. I meant to express my thoughts in relation to it. Breaking the cycle is something that I'm working on. Conflict resolution is something that I'm quite interested. Often disputes get to the point of 'she started it' 'no he started it' 'but she did this to him' 'but he did this to her'. After a while nobody can figure out where the whole mess started and how each party contributed to an escalating situation. Ultimately we can only be responsible for ourselves. For our own reactions and responses.

Only I can worry about mine...
And only you can worry about yours...

Though of course we can play 'she started it' 'no he started it' until we are blue in the face. It doesn't really help, however, except in the sense that a good fight expends a great deal of energy. Gets the endorphins flowing and afterwards one can feel much calmer and better similarly to how one feels after a good workout.

Patterns from the past...

> dont forget i am but a humble englishman with a oxford venicular

And I wouldn't have you any other way. You are alright you know Mellors. Sorry if I upset / annoyed you in expressing my opinion (yet again).